Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging

Ep 254 - Jace

Jace has been out as a trans man for about a decade and exploring polyamory since right after he graduated high school roughly seven years ago. He's currently in a long-term nesting relationship with his two husbands and exploring a bit of dating on occasion as well. He sort of stumbled into polyamory without a framework and has been learning it as he goes. We have a wonderful conversation about his journey not only in polyamory, but in coming out as trans. Like many of us, personal growth and undoing codependencies has been a major part of the path for him.

 

Jace also earned his Master's in Mental Health Counseling and works with Anna Baxter (Ep 231) at Love Positive Counseling in Georgia. His passion is working with LGBTQ+ individuals, as well as those within the polyamorous and kink communities.

 

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Ep 253 - Yana

Yana has been exploring non-monogamous relationship structures for over a decade and describes herself as solo poly in which her primary relationship is with her three year old son. She's also been in a relationship with a couple for over five years, designed a beautiful co-parent relationship, has some girlfriends, and perhaps a few other people in her orbit. Our conversation covers a lot of ground from hard lessons she's learned along the way to a wonderful conversation on the beauty and challenges of transitioning a nesting partner to a co-parenting partner.

 

Yana is also a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world. Check out all her work at yanatallonhicks.com and definitely go get a copy of her new book, Hot and Unbothered!

 

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Ep 252 - Michelle + Ron

 

Michelle and Ron are a couple of Americans living in Australia with their three young kids. They’ve been together for about ten years, married for almost nine, and exploring non-monogamy for about three. Michelle had some experience with non-monogamy before she and Ron got together and talking about those experiences was what helped crack the door open for them. They describe their dynamic as Hotwife blended with stag/vixen and our conversation goes far beyond that. They share a lot about their struggle to get pregnant, the impact it had on their relationship, and each of them individually. Ron also talks through a lot of how jealousy has been something he has had to navigate, even though at the same time he is usually excited and even turned on. This is an amazing and super fun conversation that blends some deep talks with lighthearted laughter. Enjoy!

 

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Ep 251 - Suzannah

Like many of us, Suzannah is on a journey of self-discovery. A few years back she was in a long-term relationship and cheated on her partner multiple times. In fact, infidelity was a recurring theme in her relationships until she found her way to the ethical and consensual side of non-monogamy. We have a great conversation with her about what that journey looked like and what was holding her back. She also shares with us the amazing impact that going to sex clubs and parties by herself had on her confidence and her social EQ. There are so many beautiful lessons weaved into this conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did.

 

Beyond being a badass in her personal life, Suzannah is crushing it on the professional side as well. She is a feminist writer with over 8,000 articles published, a board-certified sexologist, and she's a sex and relationship educator and coach. Find all of her work on her website at suzannahweiss.com.

 

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Ep 250 - Mel + AJ

This is Mel and AJ's second time exploring non-monogamy together. Their first time was in 2018 during a particularly challenging time in their marriage. They came very close to ending their marriage and ultimately pulled back from ENM to work on themselves and their relationship. Now they've been married about 10 years and have two kids together. In early 2021, they decided to give it another shot. However, this time they are in one of the best places they've ever been together and have done a ton of work on themselves. The conversation we have is super honest and vulnerable about how they got to this point... And it wasn't easy.

 

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Ep 249 - Pan

Pan is in his late thirties and has been exploring non-monogamy since his marriage ended a few years ago. He describes himself as a kinky, sapiosexual, and solo polyamorist who is excited to explore what life has to offer. Pan has done a ton of self-work on codependencies, being confident in who he is, learning about consent, and diving into BDSM. We have so many amazing conversations in this interview that rather than continue to read this, we suggest you just come on in and listen.

 

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Ep 248 - Bre

This conversation with Bre is amazing! It's full of energy, love, and great vibes! Bre is in her mid-thirties and has done a bit of it all... She's explored swinging, poly, kink, and even did a burlesque performance at her baby shower! We talk about it all, plus we get into her experiences co-parenting in a triad, living intentionally, how her body and sexuality changed after having a baby, healing, and of course boundaries. We also have a wonderful chat about conscious play parties vs. swinging parties. Again, this conversation is fantastic and so much fun! Enjoy! Bre is also a relationship coach and you can find her work at Liberate Your Love.

 

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Ep 247 - Kristin + Adam

Kristin and Adam have been together about 20 years and have always loved exploring together. They discovered swinging early in their relationship but didn't really have a label for what they were doing. They were just kind of figuring it out and living life. By their own admission, it was messy. There have been lots of opportunities for learning and growing together. And that's exactly what they keep doing. They've circled back around to non-monogamy in the last few years and are continuing to figure out what flavor best suits them. They live in the blurry place between casual swinging experiences and seeking deeper connections that sometimes feel more polyamorous. We love their openness and vulnerability in sharing with us, and you. Enjoy!

 

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Ep 246 - The Dildorks (Bex Caputo)

Bex is back and this time we're digging into his personal story! We had Bex on a few months back to talk all about sexting and now we get a behind-the-scenes look at Bex's journey. As best he can remember, the last and only time he's had a monogamous relationship was in his early twenties. He has a vulnerable and honest conversation with us about how his attachment style and avoidance have impacted his relationships. We dig into hierarchy, jealousy, kink, and kitchen table poly. Bex also shares some beautiful thoughts on his own transition and how he's never hated his own body or felt like he was in the wrong body, even as a trans guy. We love this conversation and hope you do as well. After you listen, head over to Bex's website to check out and support all of his work, including the Dildorks podcast!

 

From his website, www.bextalkssex.com:

Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, podcaster, and professional pervert. He’s been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since he insisted on being served his meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8. He’s a Virgo, a Hufflepuff, and a transmasc queerdo who grew up to be the pop punk skater boy he had a crush on in high school.

 

He’s also a huge nerd with ADHD, so every new interest he discovers comes with a strong desire to learn everything about it that he possibly can. As you’ve probably guessed, sex and kink were two of his earliest fascinations–and the more he learned about them, the more apparent it became that the rest of the world still had a lot to learn, too.

 

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