Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging

Hi! We’re Emma and Fin! We’re a married couple in our thirties who have been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship styles to hear their amazing stories.

Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.

We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be willing to share your own story. We’d love to hear it!

The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.
 
For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.
 
Part 1
Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.
 
Part 2
Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.
 
Part 3
Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.
 

Check out the full show notes here.

Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia

Kelsia's Email: kel@expansiveconnection.com

Expansive Connection

The Enneagram diagram we reference

The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link)

Ep 219 - Franziska

Franziska doesn't love labels but she's in her early twenties and identifies as a queer, bisexual, gender queer, kinky switch... She's shares with us how she was really first exposed to non-monogamy while living in Berlin and how her approach to relationships has evolved over the last few years.
 
She also talks about how non-monogamy has informed other aspects of her life beyond her relationships. This led her to join the team at Bloom. Bloom is a sex-positive and consent-forward dating and social community. We highly recommend you download the app and check out the incredible work that her, Luna from episode 212, and the rest of the Bloom team are doing. Enjoy!
 
The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.
 
For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.
 
Part 1
Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.
 
Part 2
Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.
 
Part 3
Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.
 

Check out the full show notes here.

Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia

Kelsia's Email: kel@expansiveconnection.com

Expansive Connection

The Enneagram diagram we reference

The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link)

Ep 218 - Whitney

Whitney is a bisexual woman in her early thirties who grew up in the Mormon church and has been married for 14 years to her high school sweetheart. She has been "officially" exploring polyamory for about three years but has had non-monogamous tendencies throughout their entire relationship. She and her husband even tried swinging for a bit until she recognized she has a need for deeper connections.. This is a fantastic conversation that covers a lot of deep topics. We hope you enjoy!
 
Whitney is also finishing up her psychology degree and is starting to work with people in alternative relationships as a coach. You can learn more by visiting her website at www.theselfevolution.com.
 
The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.
 
For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.
 
Part 1
Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.
 
Part 2
Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.
 
Part 3
Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.
 

Check out the full show notes here.

Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia

Kelsia's Email: kel@expansiveconnection.com

Expansive Connection

The Enneagram diagram we reference

The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link)

Ep 217 - Sarah

Sarah is in her early thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for about five years. As she puts it, she just always had a feeling that monogamy didn’t feel right for her but it took her a while to figure out what to do about it. After a few attempts at opening relationships that didn’t work out, she finally feels like she is in a healthy open relationship and she’s loving it. Of course, it hasn’t always been easy and there have been growth opportunities. Throughout our conversation, Sarah shares with us how she has navigated difficult situations and worked to find security and balance in her life.
 
Sarah is on a mission to help people have the sex life they truly want through writing, activism, & education. Check out all of her work here and also sign up for her Alternative Relationship Summit on January 13-14!
 
Brittany and Chad have been together about three and half years but were best friends for almost seven before that. They got together after getting out of unhealthy relationships and decided to start exploring the idea of opening their relationship as a way to encourage Brittany to explore her bisexuality. We have great conversations about owning who you are, the evolution of non-monogamous dynamics over time, how comfort levels and rules change, and so much more. We love this conversation... Enjoy!
 
Brittany and Chad also host the Tangled Up Together podcast where they share more about their adventures in exploring the swinging lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy. Check it out and support the work they do!
 
Michaela and Paul have been together about three years and actually met while Michaela was exploring non-monogamy with her ex-husband. After they officially got together they closed their relationship down for a bit to establish some security and now are back out on the journey together. We have some amazing conversations about transitioning relationships, bisexual men in the swinging lifestyle, sexual health, and of course a few bloopers! Enjoy!
 

Ep 214 - Misha

Misha has been exploring non-monogamy in varying forms since she was in her twenties when she kind of fell into a spontaneous triad. Since then, the journey has allowed her to explore sex parties, kink, and polyamory. We have some amazing conversations about attachment and what it means to be in a relationship and have a partner. We also get some bonus tips on creating better sex parties.
 
Misha also co-produces Bonobo Network with William Winters. Alongside William, she is passionate about supporting sex positive community and helping people create more pleasure for themselves. She teaches and consults individuals and communities to develop their consent culture with a harm reduction and transformative justice lens. Her private practice, Clearing Conversations, focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching and she loves supporting the sex positive community of the Bay Area and beyond in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building.
 
Michaela is 27 and has been exploring non-monogamy for a little over three years. She is an acrobat and does acro-yoga and acro-burlesque. Two things we didn't even know existed until we talked to her!
 
Bryson is 28 and also an acrobat and acrobatics instructor. He's been exploring non-monogamy since he met Michaela about two and a half years ago.
 
This conversation we have with them is so incredible. They talk about their individual struggles over the years and how they have grown together. They also talk about how their relationship has changed over the last few months and how it led them to really look hard at what it means to be a partner and how they make their partnership work. There are so many amazing conversations in this interview.... Don't skip it. You'll thank us, we promise!
 

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