Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging

Hi! We’re Emma and Fin! We’re a married couple in our thirties who have been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship styles to hear their amazing stories.

Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.

We hope you enjoy the show and who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be willing to share your own story. We’d love to hear it!

Rosie started exploring and researching the idea of non-monogamy a while ago and even tried it out briefly while she had a platonic partner. She ultimately determined it wasn’t necessarily for her, however, she ended up bringing a lot of the mindset and skills she developed and learned through non-monogamy into her monogamous relationship with her fiancé.

Rosie is also an award-winning comedian, the author of “Is Monogamy Dead?” and “The Breakup Monologues” as well as the host of the podcast by the same name. This conversation is an absolute delight… Enjoy!

 
Wendy started exploring non-monogamy about six years ago as a way to save her marriage. Anthony and his wife got into it almost 20 years ago and have been in dynamics ranging from swinging to a polyamorous quad. A few years ago their forces collided. They share with us the story of how they came to be together and the challenges of coming out of difficult relationships while trying to form new ones. We also have a great conversation about negotiating a relationship from the very beginning.
 
Wendy and Anthony also volunteer at the Paradise Club in Pennsylvania to help lead the charge in education, community building, and making the experience for members as amazing as possible.
 
Crystal and Rich came out of their previous marriages knowing they wanted something different. They found one another and have been exploring a cuckold dynamic just about from the beginning of their relationship... At least having the conversations since the beginning. This is such a fantastic conversation that shows there is more to a relationship style than the name implies. Everyone does things a little bit differently and this is a beautiful example of exactly that.
 
Kacie and Marcus have been married for about eight years and exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for three of them. They started their non-monogamy journey when Kacie realized she had a crush on a coworker and decided to talk to Marcus about it. The conversation went way better than she expected and three years later they are continuing to evolve and grow together as they figure out what works best for them and how to navigate everything. This is an incredibly powerful conversation from start to finish. We hope you enjoy it.
 

Ep 199 - Mason

Mason is an amazing queer transgender man who has been married for over a decade and exploring non-monogamy for the past five years. Everywhere Mason goes, he seems to drive change. He went to a private Christian university and went head-to-head with administration almost weekly regarding policies and treatment of the LGBTQ+ community. Now, as a sex educator who runs a business helping trans people find the best-suited sex toys for them, he continues to influence change by working with sex toy companies to make their toys more inclusive. Oh, and did we mention he got started by hosting sex toy parties at the private Christian school? We love this conversation and all of the work Mason is doing. Please check it out and tell everyone you know to help spread the love!
 

Ep 198 - Javay

 
This conversation with Javay is absolutely incredible. It's full of amazing stories, information, and a ton of laughs. Full disclosure, the rest of this description is taken straight from her website at themillennialsexpert.com because she wrote it way better than we ever could!
 
From Javay: I am a Black, bisexual, sex educator. I use she/her pronouns. I was born in Washington, DC and grew up in PG County & Charles County, MD. I currently live in Bend, OR with my husband and our two dogs, Boris & Igor. I am a sex educator, content creator, writer, erotic model, and activist.
 
I went to James Madison University where I earned a BA in Media Arts & Design and a BS in Hospitality Management. After graduating undergrad I moved to Los Angeles, CA to work in the entertainment industry. While in LA, I started my YouTube channel with my first web series, The Honest Millennial. Throughout my time in LA I realized that sex was my passion. I began working at the sex shop, A Touch of Romance, and decided I wanted to continue down this career path. I launched my sex ed web series, In Bed With a Millennial, and decided to apply to grad school to become the best sex educator I could be.
 
I recently completed my Masters of Education in Sex Education at Widener University. I am starting my doctorate in human sexuality at California Institute of Integral Studies this fall to become an even greater sex educator and continue to educate people and bringing pleasure to everyone.
 
Javay is also the co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!
 

Ep 197 - Emily

Emily is a screenwriter and script supervisor who does cosplay and designs geek clothing. She's also non-monogamous and kinky, which she discovered after her divorce. She's been exploring the kink scene and solo polyamory for a few years, and as most of us do, continuing to evolve and figure out what works best for her. This is a fantastic conversation with a seriously badass human! Enjoy!
 
Emily is also the creator and co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!
 

Ep 196 - Jaret

Jaret is partnered with Jamie who was a former guest on episode 184. This deep conversation with Jaret covers his experiences in healing from a traumatic brain injury, supporting his dad and partner, Jamie, through their transitions, and releasing expectations in relationships and life. This is a powerful episode in many ways, we hope you enjoy it.
 

In this fantastic roundtable conversation we bring Leanne, G, and Zach back on the show to talk more about their experiences creating safe and inclusive spaces to explore sexuality.  G and Zach were foundational members of the orgy club/team at Yale. Leanne was a member of Oxford’s Piers Gaveston Society and also has organized many of her own orgies. 

We tap into their wisdom in how to build community and environments where people feel safe, welcome, and free to explore their sexuality. Some sexy stories are shared, along with exploring the deeper meaning behind fostering events like these, and we top it off with a few hilarious bloopers. Without a doubt, you do NOT want to skip this episode!

Thank you again to Leanne, G, and Zach for sharing their voices and experiences with us. 

 

Ep 194 - Mandy

Mandy is such a delight to talk to and is so full of positive energy! She is a bisexual badass who has been exploring solo polyamory and relationship anarchy for about four years. We have an amazing discussion about her journey, about navigating the complications of mono-poly dynamics, and of course, Fin's favorite topic... Unicorn hunting! Mandy is also the creator of the fantastic YouTube channel, Mainely Mandy. Check it out and support her work after you finish this incredible discussion. Enjoy!
 

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